The primary difference with dating when it comes to men and their success (or lack thereof) is the fact that they are either a nice guy or a bad boy.

Humans have always tended to fit into one of two categories: hunter or gatherer. When you look at it from this perspective, I would say that nice guys are the gatherers. They take the scraps of what is left behind. They are going to take the girl that is damaged and try to fix her; instead of finding what it is they really want. The hunter doesn’t go after the lame one. He doesn’t go after the one that is on the outer edges. He wants the main attraction, in the middle–the ten pointer. He wants the one that he can show off and he can be proud of.

Bad boys are the hunters amongst us in society. When they get a girl in their sights, they pursue her ruthlessly and with determination. Whereas nice guys tend to want the girl but they never strive to get her. They lie in wait and try to gather her up. But it always work in their favor.

Here is my advice for all you nice guys out there. First of all, if you are going to go out, if you are going to try to pick up a girl, follow the three S’s. Shit, Shower, and Shave.

I know, you are probably thinking that is not the right thing to say or that is not necessarily what you would look at when preparing yourself, so let me be clear:

It is extremely weird to a girl when you have to excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and it takes more than a few minutes, especially if you are at a club, bar or some social function because then she is thinking that you blew her off. So shit in advance.

Shower. We like you to smell good. We really, really, really appreciate a man who looks like he is CLEAN (hint, hint). If you show up and you’ve got dirty hair or your clothes are mucky, it just will not bode well for you.

Next, shave. Now included with shaving, I’m also going to say brush your teeth and this is just because they are both habits that you tend to do at your sink versus in your shower. Girls are keen on guys that look like they take their personal grooming seriously. If you have a beard, great! Gwen loves beards! But trim it, because it needs to look like you’ve actually given it some maintenance.

The reason beyond all reasons that you should look like you take care of your face by shaving or trimming is because it gives us an idea of what else you shave and trim.

Now that you’ve done that; all you nice guys listen up. You need to walk out the door with confidence. Stop worrying that girls aren’t going to like you. That they’re not going to think you’re hot or that they’re not going think you’re entertaining. Stop worrying that you can’t dance or you can’t do karaoke. Stop worrying, period.

Go out there, own who you are, and be it! Because that is what the bad boys do. And news flash, we like the nice guys! Chicks dig boys who are charming without being arrogant, who are genuinely sweet. Boys that pay attention to us and actually listen to what we are saying. We like that you are shy with a killer sense of humor. Ladies would rather have the cute nerdy nice guy who collects Transformers action figures any day over the gorgeous, successful, rich bad boy who prattles on endlessly about himself.

So, that’s it. From a girl, who would prefer to go out to a bar and meet some guy who isn’t necessarily the hottest or with the crowd of people around him. I want the guy who is smart. I want the guy who is funny in his own way. I want the guy who looks like he knows what he wants, who looks like he knows what he is after. I want the guy who when he looks at me, when he sees me; he hunts me down!