In discussions regarding bedroom antics, most people will admit to anything. They’ll tell you that they dig the ass slapping and hair pulling. They’ll own up to BDSM fantasies and porn fiascos. The one thing that they won’t say though: “I dig anal.”
The conversations that I’ve had with other women (and men) have made me see that this taboo act is more misunderstood than anything. Only those who are really into it are really sure how to do it. The rest of the population seems to be grappling in the dark for the right approach. Now I won’t go into my personal preferences and I’ll admit to not being an “anal expert” but if you need some points- let me show you the direction.
#1- Kill the pain
There is a product call “Anal Ease”; use it. A small squirt rubbed around the inner and outer rim to the entrance is plenty. Then wipe off the finger and start another activity because it takes about ten minutes to kick in. Starting too soon will kill his ability to feel sensations which is bad juju.
#2- Lube is your friend
The ass is the one orifice used for sex that does not self-lubricate. Due to this fact, you need to provide your own. Your best bet is something water based because silicone based products can have negative reactions (ie: fusing) to condoms and other toys. You’ll need to add a squirt to the entrance and then slather it on the shaft. This is the one instance where there really can’t be too much of a good thing.
#3- Try before you buy
Regarding the rear end, you need to realize that trying it out before you buy into the entire concept is the best approach. Fingers and toys will help “ready the area”. It is definitely a case of practice, practice, practice.
#4- Slower is better
Please understand that until you are used to it. It is going to hurt. The guy MUST be patient when starting out. Make sure that you are inserting into the hole because it can be hard to be sure exactly where it is without looking. As he inserts, you are going to need to pause when it starts to hurt too much. The feeling will subside and then he can push in a little more. It can take a while to get it all in there and he needs to maintain an erection the whole time or efforts will have to be abandoned for another day. Once in, slow and steady is the best pace until you are ready for more.
#5- Sporking!
I know that some people are partial to spooning for cuddling and this is a great starting position for beginners with anal forking. Ladies, lift your top leg, stick your butt out, and rotate your hips. Sometimes this position can be challenging for those with smaller packages but it is still the best starting point.
Just because a girl has done anal with one guy does not mean that she’ll like it with another. It is an act that can be pleasurable under the right circumstances but the majority of women have to really trust a man before “going there”. Since so many folks have the “exit only” strategy, don’t push the idea. This is normally about the shit-factor and; let’s face it, if the guys can’t deal with a little shit on his dick then he isn’t ready for anal. Word of warning for after though: Zac and Miri were right- it will “loosen you up”.
If you are ready to give this particular variety of fornication a try, this is the one time that you’ll need that Boy Scout motto. “Be prepared!” Also, practice makes perfect (but that’s just my opinion)!
