Watching a friend go through the stages of New Relationship Energy (NRE) can be entertaining. For myself, I tend to keep things so private that my buddies don’t realize there is a new person in my life until the NRE has started to wane. But for some of my dearest friends, they engross themselves in it with fervor. I’m not saying that this is a mistake but the biggest blunder is when the sweet turns sour and it usually involves one thing: your cell phone.
My cell phone lets me use Facebook, Twitter, Wordpress, and any other internet site. I can email, text, and talk- all at the same time. The device is virtual link to the outside world and I’m not alone.
Recently, a good friend of mine was in the midst of a fling. He was enjoying the private moments but feeling the sting of rejection because things weren’t destined to go anywhere. It led me to be the Taker Of The Phone.
In moments of weakness, we are all tempted to pursue that person that we have an interest in but can’t be with. What was once drunk-dialing, has become drunk-texting, drunk-emailing, and even drunk-tweeting. I freely admit that I’ve been guilty of some (if not all) of these actions at one point or another but I have learned from my mistakes and pass my lessons on to you!
Should you be one of those unfortunate people who has been recently released from a relationship or are suffering from the sting of rejection; do not resort to the use of your phone!
Find a friend that you can trust (who won’t turn the handing over of the phone into an opportunity for pranks) and give up the cell. You don’t want your loneliness, inebriated, or otherwise vulnerable states of mind to cause you to recklessly contact someone.
When my friend was going through this, the NRE was great but short lived. Both of them knew that it was a temporary arrangement with more attachment on one side than the other. As I sat on my sofa, watching Super Troopers for the three hundred and sixty seventh time; I saw the phone get set down and the beers get opened. Then came the glances at the phone. Then the checking of missed calls. Then the listening to voicemail. Then the reading of text messages. Then the checking of email. Then the logging into Facebook. Then the look of consideration about using one of these methods of communication to contact this unrequited crush. I realized that I was bearing witness to the ritual of all those who are experiencing uncertainty/rejection. As the BFF, I knew it was my duty to say just one thing:
“Hand over the phone and no one gets hurt!”
