Watching a friend go through the stages of New Relationship Energy (NRE) can be entertaining. For myself, I tend to keep things so private that my buddies don’t realize there is a new person in my life until the NRE has started to wane. But for some of my dearest friends, they engross themselves in it with fervor. I’m not saying that this is
If you happen to be one of the (lucky) few that can call themselves “polyamorous”, then I’m sure you understand just how important your time can be. We all have obligations that have to be met. Being poly means that the time management skills get kicked up into over drive. I’ve never had a problem balancing the different demands on
This is going to sound bad but I love my bed. Not in the “my bed is really comfortable” way but in the “I don’t want to sleep in your bed because I spent weeks going through stores and catalogs to get every single aspect of my sleep center just right” way. So when given the choice between sleeping at my boyfriend’s place or at my
With every new person you invite into your bed, you have to make decisions. Some take no thought at all: condom? Yes. Others are less serious: lights on or off? Dim. Being in a poly relationship can complicate this arena of a new relationship. Because the person that you are with, your primary partner, has a say-so in the decision making
Part of the problem to some people that are polyamorous comes, not from their new relationships, but from their primary or existing partners. We all get that surge of New Relationship Energy (NRE) when we start a romance. It is hard for someone that is already in your life to watch that NRE blossom without feeling jealous or getting
Have you ever heard the adage- “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans”? After several years and numerous failed relationships, I had finally reached a point where I approached my partner to discuss the fact that I was going on a break from the poly life for a while. The latest one had affected both of us, in a very strong
It has taken several months and lots of introspection for me to reach a point that I could discuss my own poly dating life again. I started out writing for NerdyPerv about sexual antics and possibilities. Every article, whether nerdy or pervy, has required me to do a bit of research and then find my own voice. It is how I talk to you, the
One day after an intense color demo, I was finishing my webcomic, Mermaid Hostel, when I was hit with the most ARDENT sexual urges in my life. It was like a fog hit me and I sat drawing, sweating and feeling certain things in me pooling. Male voices from the lab in the basement drifted up to me via little holes in the knotty wood floor. "Calm
Each and every time that I enter into a relationship, I find myself having to answer to those folks who seem to think that there is a schedule involved. Date one: Meet for drinks. Date two: Dinner. Date three: Serious kissing. These people have somehow got it into their heads that we are all supposed to move at the same pace and on the same time
Just because I am poly does not mean that every person that I date is or will be. In fact, with one exception, none of my relationships have been poly. There were those that were monogamous and they tended to be understanding of the poly life. These relationships had their ups and downs, some ended on good terms and others on bad. But my being
