NerdyPerv is used to people picking our brains when it comes to matters of the libido. Sometimes our resident sexpert can answer questions that leave Chris and Gwen scratching their heads or holding back giggles. She’s the mature, respectable, and truly knowledgeable one amongst us. She keeps us in line and always brings the goods.
The following question popped in our mailbox over the weekend. Take it away, lady!!
I’ve just started dating a girl and she admitted to me recently that she doesn’t masturbate…ever. She says she likes sex and gets off just fine to it, but should I be concerned that she’s not as “in-touch” with herself as she could be? Could this mean that she has low self-esteem, or maybe that she’s not confident with her sexuality?
Thanks, really appreciate any advice you can give!
If she likes sex more and feels like that is all she needs it doesn’t have to mean she is not in tune with herself sexually – maybe it even means that she is because she has thought about it and came to this realization that masturbation is just not what she needs to feel sexually satisfied.
As far as self-esteem is concerned time will definitely let you know, but as long as she has fun with sex and has no issues in that area you should be alright. In the end it comes down to the fact that if she doesn’t see a problem in her lack of masturbation it isn’t a problem.
I hope this helps. Let us know if you have any further questions.
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